i have things to say

Seven whole days have passed since my inaugural Random Love post and those seven days have been insane, insane, insane. First off, Eve was horribly ill and missed an entire week of school, which she then promptly had to make up for by going to school over an hour earlier every day for the ensuing week ~ a concept which does not sit well with me because it’s so counter-productive and that’s a catalyst for another blog post. Secondly, my man had knee surgery and was essentially unable to move or walk for the first few days. I love him with all of my soul and would do it again in a heartbeat but helping him, taking care of my baby and managing a full-time profession has left me just exhausted. Insert big, fat yawn :)

Onward ho with this week’s Random Love. I think you’ll really like my discoveries.

shutterstock_201029885Ever wondered why men become gynecologists?  I’ve always been stumped. Read why they do what they do here, explanations from 10 male female parts doctors.

shutterstock_126855053 So if your significant other goes on an extended job posting like, oh say, a mission trip to Africa. Or taking photos of the Batang Ai River down in Borneo. Or heads to space for NASA. Does it count as cheating if you indulge in some action with another person?


I had NO idea this even existed.

img_9585-copy Hmmm, this reads really oddly. I mean I lived there for well over 10 years and I can tell you straight off the bat that (from left to right) #2, #5 and #6 are absolutely true.  The rest? Hmmm.

why-piyo-worksPiYo. The latest buzzword in achieving a toned silhouette. I adore this workout. As some of you know, I’ve been doing Pilates for a while now. It does things to my body which no amount of cardio, or weights, can. What all of you don’t know is that since I started working out at the end of 2010, it’s been suggested that I take on Yoga, to chill. Suggested by practically every single trainer and gym rat I’ve met. I’m serious. Anyway, the point here is while I adored the benefits of Yoga, I just couldn’t see myself doing something so, oh I don’t know, zen?  Hence when the fitness gods created PiYo, I was beside myself with joy :) I mean, strong is the new skinny, yes? Incidentally, did you also know, though, that Piyo is a giant, mutated chick?  I certainly didn’t.

You have a good weekend now.


Love, Sheela


shutterstock_153920543 Pink streaks across the sky, lighting up the morning.

Such a beautiful time to be alive, I continue on dreaming.



\shahn-saw-NET; English shan-suh-NET\
1. French. a little song; ditty.

p/s Not the most poetic but hey, it’s a midweek, spontaneous ditty I wanted to share GRIN

It’s good to see you again.  Been a while, hasn’t it?  (Almost) precisely a year, I believe.






IMG_6513 It’s good having you back, Fall.  I’ve missed you.

How’s your start to my favourite time of the year coming?


Love, Sheela

Outfit Credits

Cardigan – Zara, Top – Michael Kors, Faux Leather Panel Leggings – Babooshka Boutique, Boots – Bakers, Vintage Necklace – Atlantis Dry Goods, Wooden Horn Ring – Poshmark (also worn here), Scratches on hand – Boxing, and Equestrian Cuff – Loewe (gifted).




imageThe relationship between space, light and shadows fascinates me.


This post marks Day 05 (I’m really late, I know, this was meant for the 18th) of a 30-day initiative created by The Daily Post.  Brevity was the prompt and man, did that stump me. If you’ve read any of my posts, you’ll know that being succinct isn’t my strongest suit. At all. Anyway, I did 9 words.


While it’s true that we each have our personal reasons for blogging, at the end of the day, we all want to start a conversation with our readers.  To encourage exchanges of opinions and thoughts.  A blog without comments is a sad, quiet place, and that’s something every blogger strives to avoid.  Two days ago, as part of Blogging 101, we were asked to comment on five new blogs.  It struck me then, how could I make my comments stand out from the crowd?  I mean, is not the ultimate goal behind commenting (and the concept of social media, in general) to get noticed in a subtle fashion? The art of writing attention-worthy comments may appear to many as being insignificant, perhaps frivolous even, but in reality, nothing could be further from the truth.  Here’s what was uppermost in my mind as I trawled the Blogosphere.

(1)  HOT – Be Honest, Be Original and Keep To The Point. Don’t follow a blogger simply because she’s popular and you’re hoping to ride on her coat-tails. Follow because you’re genuinely keen to read what she has to say. Bloggers can smell poseurs from a mile away. When your interest is genuine, your comments will automatically follow suit and add value to the entire thread.  Be witty, showcase an interesting perspective. Note: funny always wins, hands down. Ask thoughtful questions; or disagree with the points if you feel your position on the topic is different. It’s perfectly alright to respectfully disagree and challenge, to present your case. In fact, that extends the conversation (which we love), creates spinoff threads (we love it when that happens too), and you’ll find other bloggers/commentators more inclined towards checking out your blog if your opinion is honest, logical and engaging.

(2)  Get In Early – Remember the adage, “The early bird catches the worm?”  It’s so true.  Established names the likes of Keiko Lynn and Style Bubble (I’ve been a fan of both since 2009) garner anywhere from 20 to 200 comments per post.  It’s easy to get lost and go unnoticed if yours is Comment #113. To keep up, I use  Pocket and, of course, Bloglovin as well as Subscription Emails.  And when all else fails, there’s always good ole fashion bookmarking.

(3)  It’s Not About You – No, it’s not.  Commenting isn’t about blatant self-promotion.  It’s about expressing your opinion in a conversation which legitimately appeals to you. The only “publicity” you should expect is your name being hyperlinked back to your own blog/website. I’m sure, like me, you’ve seen some comments end with 4, 5 lines of bio/links and I’m also sure that you, like me, agree it wasn’t a pretty sight.

(4)  Don’t Be A Serial Commentator – Too often, I see identical comments copied/pasted across a wide spectrum of blogs, without a care for relevance.  Seriously?  Even if minute, surely you could take the time to tweak your comment to suit the genre of a particular blog?  This is blog spam, the sort of thing that could very well put you in a bad light. You can come across as being rude, inconsiderate and desperate. Worse of all, you may get yourself banned from ever commenting in that blog again. Not exactly the best way to establish yourself within the community.

(5)  Do Be A Regular – You know how every successful blogger cites consistent posting as the secret behind their success?  It works the same way with comments. Instead of being a one hit wonder, maintain a constant presence by regularly posting quality comments in the blogs you follow. Over time, both blog owner and readers will come to recognise your name, and associate it with a good read. They’ll be much more likely to come your way.

And those are my personal 5 Commandments of good blog Commenting. What have I missed which works for you?  Do share :)


Love, Sheela


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