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It’s good to see you again.  Been a while, hasn’t it?  (Almost) precisely a year, I believe.






IMG_6513 It’s good having you back, Fall.  I’ve missed you.

How’s your start to my favourite time of the year coming?


Love, Sheela

Outfit Credits

Cardigan – Zara, Top – Michael Kors, Faux Leather Panel Leggings – Babooshka Boutique, Boots – Bakers, Vintage Necklace – Atlantis Dry Goods, Wooden Horn Ring – Poshmark (also worn here), Scratches on hand – Boxing, and Equestrian Cuff – Loewe (gifted).




imageThe relationship between space, light and shadows fascinates me.


This post marks Day 05 (I’m really late, I know, this was meant for the 18th) of a 30-day initiative created by The Daily Post.  Brevity was the prompt and man, did that stump me. If you’ve read any of my posts, you’ll know that being succinct isn’t my strongest suit. At all. Anyway, I did 9 words.


While it’s true that we each have our personal reasons for blogging, at the end of the day, we all want to start a conversation with our readers.  To encourage exchanges of opinions and thoughts.  A blog without comments is a sad, quiet place, and that’s something every blogger strives to avoid.  Two days ago, as part of Blogging 101, we were asked to comment on five new blogs.  It struck me then, how could I make my comments stand out from the crowd?  I mean, is not the ultimate goal behind commenting (and the concept of social media, in general) to get noticed in a subtle fashion? The art of writing attention-worthy comments may appear to many as being insignificant, perhaps frivolous even, but in reality, nothing could be further from the truth.  Here’s what was uppermost in my mind as I trawled the Blogosphere.

(1)  HOT – Be Honest, Be Original and Keep To The Point. Don’t follow a blogger simply because she’s popular and you’re hoping to ride on her coat-tails. Follow because you’re genuinely keen to read what she has to say. Bloggers can smell poseurs from a mile away. When your interest is genuine, your comments will automatically follow suit and add value to the entire thread.  Be witty, showcase an interesting perspective. Note: funny always wins, hands down. Ask thoughtful questions; or disagree with the points if you feel your position on the topic is different. It’s perfectly alright to respectfully disagree and challenge, to present your case. In fact, that extends the conversation (which we love), creates spinoff threads (we love it when that happens too), and you’ll find other bloggers/commentators more inclined towards checking out your blog if your opinion is honest, logical and engaging.

(2)  Get In Early – Remember the adage, “The early bird catches the worm?”  It’s so true.  Established names the likes of Keiko Lynn and Style Bubble (I’ve been a fan of both since 2009) garner anywhere from 20 to 200 comments per post.  It’s easy to get lost and go unnoticed if yours is Comment #113. To keep up, I use  Pocket and, of course, Bloglovin as well as Subscription Emails.  And when all else fails, there’s always good ole fashion bookmarking.

(3)  It’s Not About You – No, it’s not.  Commenting isn’t about blatant self-promotion.  It’s about expressing your opinion in a conversation which legitimately appeals to you. The only “publicity” you should expect is your name being hyperlinked back to your own blog/website. I’m sure, like me, you’ve seen some comments end with 4, 5 lines of bio/links and I’m also sure that you, like me, agree it wasn’t a pretty sight.

(4)  Don’t Be A Serial Commentator – Too often, I see identical comments copied/pasted across a wide spectrum of blogs, without a care for relevance.  Seriously?  Even if minute, surely you could take the time to tweak your comment to suit the genre of a particular blog?  This is blog spam, the sort of thing that could very well put you in a bad light. You can come across as being rude, inconsiderate and desperate. Worse of all, you may get yourself banned from ever commenting in that blog again. Not exactly the best way to establish yourself within the community.

(5)  Do Be A Regular – You know how every successful blogger cites consistent posting as the secret behind their success?  It works the same way with comments. Instead of being a one hit wonder, maintain a constant presence by regularly posting quality comments in the blogs you follow. Over time, both blog owner and readers will come to recognise your name, and associate it with a good read. They’ll be much more likely to come your way.

And those are my personal 5 Commandments of good blog Commenting. What have I missed which works for you?  Do share :)


Love, Sheela

When it comes to work, I try very hard to stick to a 9-to-5 mentality (although, do we ever shut off completely?), but am rarely able to actually take advantage of the freedom it offers.  This past week, however, has reminded me just how fortunate I am to be able to control my own schedule, and for that, I am grateful.  Here’s to never forgetting.


Say hello to Pocket, the app previously known as Read It Later.  You know how it is.  Multiple tabs open for reading when we have a quiet moment to spare.  Post Its on every conceivable bare space.  Pocket is God’s gift to journalists, bloggers and just about everyone who utilises the Internet as the treasure trove of research it is.  It’s a smooth download, and an even smoother user experience.  All the stuff you want to check out tonight, tomorrow or over the weekend, gets saved in one location, easily accessible from the Pocket icon on your Sidebar.  Go on, download it.  You won’t be sorry.

Virginia Woolf_www.lylybye.blogspot.comI’ve finally gotten around to reading Virgina Woolf’s Diary, Volume 1 and I’m spellbound.

tschang-528x528     (photo courtesy of TS Chang)

Instagram continues to be a wondrous source of inspiration for me.  So much talent to be unearthed, and in this case, TS Chang.  He takes amazing, poignant pictures with the humble iPhone.  Perfectly composed and beautifully captured, each frame appears to pulsate with life.  And it truly does my heart proud to see life through his eyes because the young man is Malaysian.  Viva Malaysia.

What brave women.  And to think that I can call one of them my high school classmate, my friend. Such an honour.  Perhaps one day, I shall be just as courageous and share my own story.

We love our boyfriend jeans, don’t we, but how do men actually feel about them?  Here’s what 17 guys said.


And on that note, Happy Thursday, everyone, I hope your coming weekend is awesome!!  Love, Sheela


This post marks Day 01 (24 hours late) of a 30-day initiative created by The Daily Post.  These geniuses came up with Writing 101: Building A Blogging Habit.  For our initiation piece, we were commanded to loosen up, and write for 20 minutes.  To freely write without planned thought or reservation for 1200 seconds.  Here’s what I came up with.  And I only checked for spelling.  Pinkie swear.


What do I write?  This is a timed piece, 20 minutes to be precise.

Step one, poise fingers above keyboard.  Step two, start typing.  And step three, pray most fervently that something appears.  I don’t think I have much to say though.  Spontaneous writing isn’t the issue, it’s the timed element which feels like a noose around my neck.  My mind is blank.  I have Chopped on the tv screen and the chefs have been tasked with transforming Root Beer Schnapps , Squash Blossoms and Ostrich Steak.  And some Lap Cheong which is Chinese sausage, I believe it’s a concoction of Pig’s Blood with Pork, deliciously fat and rich and flavourful.

Speaking of Lap Cheong, I do so love it.  When I lived in Singapore (which was for well over a decade), one of my favourite weekend meals was a plate of Crab Meat Fried Rice which came with generous dollops of sliced Lap Cheong.  And Black Pepper a-plenty.  The stall which sold the fried rice was considered one of the top 10 Hawker Stalls on the island at the time.

I’m fast running out of ideas.  I suppose I could talk more about Lap Cheong and how else you could cook it but that seems really retarded and I really don’t want to appear retarded.

I was supposed to make Chicken Ramen for dinner tonight but I didn’t have time to dash to the grocery store to purchase a bottle of Sake so I’m going to have to wing something to put on the table in about 1.5 hours.  There’s always Kim Son but we try so hard to not eat food from outside because it simply isn’t very healthy.  Furthermore, I just had a bowl of sliced ripe banana with Dutch Chocolate Ice Cream so no more indulgences for me for the day.  Damn it.  Incidentally I typed the word “damn” around seven times because apparently I can’t spell very well when writing under (timed) pressure.  Grr face.

I am stumped yet again.  Chopped is still on and the last two chefs standing are now facing it off in the dessert round.  I love the concept behind Chopped although if I were standing there as a competitor, I’d probably pee in my pants.  And that’s 20 minutes.  Of course I had to end it on a pee note.  Oy.


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