What’s wrong with being confident?
What’s wrong with being who you really are?
Nothing.
Not a single thing.
And if that opening line appears familiar, it’s Ms Lovato’s anthem (I love you, Demi). If it isn’t yours yet, I urge you to give it a go listen.
So, I was staring at my blank screen, seeking inspiration to craft the story behind this look. That’s how it works actually, I look at the photographs, the location, the expressions on my face, something sparks a thought, a memory, and the writing begins. As I was looking intensely at the laptop, I started humming the song. Out of the blue. Although, in my mind, I edited the lyrics a tad. I hummed, “What’s the matter with being confident, a-haaa!“. It runs in the family, in fact, this innate ability to revise words/names/songs, as my dad and my brother would attest. Fact: my mother is very skilled in rebaptising people and renaming roads.
I KID YOU NOT.
Why the topic “confidence“, you ask?
Well, as I said, I was looking at these photos and I realised the extent to which I’ve evolved over the past few months. When I began blogging in earnest last November, I wouldn’t dream of venturing outside of my backyard and the sheer prospect of wearing colours and/or prints would send me fleeing, screaming, in the opposite direction. Yet, here I am, decked out from head to toe in a very graphic, very striking print, posing on the fringes of a construction site. Without a care in the world for the passing cars and gawking pedestrians. Oh, how things have changed indeed.
I'VE BECOME BOLDER. MORE CONFIDENT.
Credit must be extended to my photographer, Sofia. The woman may be tiny but she is fierce and she is funny and she coaxes you into doing things you never thought you would, all in the name of capturing that perfect pose. I must also thank Eve. My very first shutterbug. Without her encouragement not so subtle suggestion, I would never ever have entertained the idea of hiring a professional lenswoman in the first instance. And even now, she’s my biggest cheerleader (and official behind-the-scenes prompter).
Because of these two, I don’t even pause to feel shy and awkward anymore. Much. And should the desire to crawl into a hole in the ground and disappear strike, I just put on some really dark sunnies. That’s it. That’s my Popeye-spinach thingy.
I’m even going so far as to attempt yet another new thing tomorrow. I’m going to change in the car. Because we’ve planned a location shoot and that’s what you do when you’re shooting on location. You change your clothes in your car, with nary a cringe nor grimace #vanitytrumpssanity
If I’ve learned anything at all from this blogging gig, it’s confidence. Which is so ironic because, in truth, I’m the most shy and insecure woman you’ll ever meet. I’m the epitome of gauche. At parties, I’ll be the one hiding in the corner. Hoping no one will come over because I’d just die from the attention. And then feeling mortified anyway because I’m left all alone, with nobody to talk to. A sad wallflower.
YES, THATISWAS ME.
Ever since I started taking blogging seriously, it seems as though I’ve been doing nothing but peeling and chipping. Peeling away layers upon layers of deep-rooted insecurity. Determinedly chipping at my wall of non-existent self-esteem. And it’s showing up in not just my clothes, but also the colours I choose to wear. I’ve gone from Black and everything that falls under the category of dark shade, to some of (the occasionally blinding) brightest shades known to man. It’s a metamorphosis. I hesitate to liken myself with a butterfly because that’s far too cliché an analogy but I think you understand what I’m saying.
I'M TALKING THE TALK & WALKING THE WALK.
I dress for me. And I dress the way I damn well please. I’ll pair a plaid with a grid print, if I so choose. Throw in some neon yellow along the way just because. And if I feel like wearing the most graphic pair of booties ever, well then, I shall. For every sidelong glance thrown my way, I’ve earned a compliment on Instagram. For every, “But you shouldn’t“, I remember how a random stranger took the trouble to tell me that she thought my outfit was perfectly styled. And for every person who tells me I’m too old to wear something, I think of all the women who, like me, thumb up their noses at this ridiculous notion called “age appropriate dressing“.
I shan’t lie. It’s terribly easy to let negativity get to you, and it’s certainly easier to believe in naysayers than it is to believe in yourself. But I’ll tell you this. People are genuinely interested in and appreciative of creative and unique outfits.
Isn’t that the premise of style? Isn’t that why street fashion has become such a big thing? An ode to being original? Being different. Being yourself.
Love, Sheela
p/s photos by Sofia Touassa
I link up here.
Plaid Duster Cardigan (Forever21, old) (similar here, here & here) | Everything Else, Ring, Ice Cream Clutch & Sunnies (Poshmark) | Shoes (GX by Gwen Stefani, sold out, similar)
Oh hunnie, first of all you look so chic!! Great mix of patterns and that boots is giving me life. Having a good photographer is definitely a good thing, because they know what to do.
I’m with you on the confidence level. Blogging has really brought me out of my shell. I’m wearing clothes I would have shy away from before blogging and with all the curvy or plus size movement, I feel more welcomed into society. Sounds stupid, but lets be honest society can put pressure on us sometimes. :))
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Society and societal perceptions is just pure stupidity and ignorance. People are uncomfortable and afraid of what they’re not used to which is so dumb 🙂 you, my friend, are fierce and fearless, something everyone aspires to be so don’t every change xo
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It can be hard at times, but inner confidence is so important. Confidence is the best accessory to any outfit! Love your print mixing, especially those fab pants!
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You said it perfectly, Laura, confidence is the best accessory ever xoxo
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Confidence is indeed everything and without it destroys you. Loved this post you look great and I love your ice cream bag 🙂
Gemma x
http://www.jacquardflower.uk
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It does eat you from the inside out, doesn’t it, Gemma. I know, I’ve let it happen to me time and again but I’m really working on it this time 🙂 xoxo
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Great post. Love the bold prints complimenting each other.
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Thank you SO much, Marina xo
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Wonderful post – walk the walk and talk the talk for sure – like the authentic woman you are! thanks for sharing, xo
-Patti
http://notdeadyetstyle.com
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Thank you loads and loads, Patti, that’s high praise coming from someone I admire so much xoxo
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From the photos I’ve seen in your past posts I always thought you were incredibly confident. I would have never pegged you as one in the corner at parties. You always look like the one who would be the life of the party! I’m glad blogging brought out your amazing self! I loved reading this and love this outfit! That ring and the purse are amazing!
~Lili
http://www.thefashionsalt.com
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Oh yes, Lili, I’m always the quiet one in the corner, fighting back the nervous giggles and stammers. I’m only loud and boisterous when I’m among friends 🙂 thank you so much for always making the time to stop by, you’ve no idea how much I appreciate that/you xoxo
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love the touch of neon! fantastic outfit!
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Thank you so very much, Kelsey!!!
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Blogging has helped me shed the layers in my mind as well! U r a stunner!
Thestyletune.com
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Oh wow, thank you so very much!! I really appreciate it, and yes, blogging has helped in my onion-like peeling too 🙂
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Confidence is the best accessory! I’m loving your duster and this black and white look! Thank you for hosting the linkup!
Jill
Doused In Pink
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Yes it is indeed, Jill, and I’m hoping I’ll get more of that with time (and more blog posts). Thank you so much for commenting, it means loads to me xoxo
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Such a great post, Sheela! I’m so glad that blogging made you more comfortable and bolder in the way you dress! It definitely shines through! I love your style, and I’m so glad we connected here! You are an inspiration so, keep doing what you’re doing and I know you’ll be successful!
xoxo, Vanessa
http://www.WhatWouldVWear.com
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Me too, Vanessa, so so so glad we connected!!! Oh. Thank you. Very much!!! You’ve been my inspiration for some time now, and as such, you can imagine how your words are helping me to walk on air at the moment 🙂 xoxoxoxo
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You look fabulously confident and your pictures are getting better and better. Thank you for joining my Powers the Flower link-up.
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Thank you so much, Rena!!! I’ve been blessed to come across a photographer who isn’t just incredibly talented but also wonderful at making me feel completely at ease in front of the lens 🙂
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This is such a chic look , love how you styled this outfit !
xoxo
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Thank you very much, Sorana, I really appreciate it 🙂
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You are the cutest, Sheela. Love your pants. SO perfect!
Have a fabulous Monday!
Much love, Len
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Hahaha thanks babe. And know that I always appreciate you stopping by xoxo
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nice heels
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One of my faves 🙂 xoxo
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I love your grid prints! They look amazing paired together
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