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Hey Gold Digger & A Link-Up

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Gold Digger?

Or is it Goal Digger?


When a woman goes after her dreams, and achieves them, isn’t it odd annoying how often pundits claim it’s due to her Northward-bound hemlines or whom she slept with?  Or because her dad is so and so?  And why not her mum, for that matter?  Anything save for, oh I don’t know, the fact that she might actually have earned those accolades?  Because she’s intelligent?  Determined?  Deserving?

Instead of a gold digger, shouldn’t she be called a goal digger instead?


Hey Gold Digger & A Link-Up | Sheela Writes

Dress (Urbanog) | Gold Sequin Blazer,  Gold Polka Dot Socks & Gold Sunnies (Poshmark) | Helios Cuff (Cabi) | Wooden Rings (H&M) | Black & Gold Bucket Bag (Zara)

In as much as things have changed, things haven’t really changed all that much.  Society still tends to favour the other gender (hint: it’s not us females) when it comes to peer recognition.  And frankly, I find that to be such a contradiction to the vast advancements we’ve made, as a race, in all other aspects of life and living.

For instance, we blink nary an eyelid when the head of a corporation is male yet when a female holds that position, it’s such an anomaly that publicity is triggered.  Media ink gets generated.  Many exclaim, “Oh wow“, seemingly in amazement.


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Should it not be the norm?  As versus the (still somewhat rare) exception?

To be perfectly honest, I’m not quite certain where these suffragette thoughts are arising from.  I suppose I could peg it down to election imagery saturating the soapbox (and every other media channel) of late.  Or my personal views on how women ought to be treated, given that I come from a background whereby my gender species kind was generally viewed merely as baby-makers, cooks, housekeepers, and bed-warmers.

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Goal Diggers.  And not Gold Diggers.

And that fully explains the rationale behind this month’s #projectsisteract theme.  Ish.  The play of words.  Leveraging on something traditionally viewed as being an exchange of material gains for services rendered (to put it delicately), to mean something completely different.  Goal Diggers.  The pursuit of dreams.  Being gutsy.  Having balls (girl crushing on Samantha Bee).

Being fearless.  Having moxie and pluck in spades.  Such as wearing gold in a manner that’s cool and edgy.  During the day, mind you.  Less Mr Boombastic, more Jenny from the block.  If that makes sense.  It sort of does to me.  And the following ladies.

Eve, Teens (the world according to eve)

The World According To Eve

Kat, 20s (kat walk sf)

Kat Walk SF

Sheela, 40s (sheela writes)

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Rebecca, 50s (red tag chic los angeles)

Red Tag Chic Los Angeles

Angst over gender equality issues aside, I cannot help but be continually bowled over by how beautiful (these) women are.  All beautiful.  All unique.  All special.  So incredibly amazing, each and every one of them.  And how differently the same theme is interpreted here (it never gets old).  From body chains to accessories to head-to-toe liquid gold.


Hey Gold Digger & A Link-Up | Sheela Writes

Before I go, I want to say I’m fully aware how the vast majority of what I write centres on issues pertaining to women, and equality of sexes, and that sort of thing.  For those who consistently and faithfully read my pieces, from start to finish, and then proceed to leave such insightful comments, I thank you.  From the very bottom of my heart.

In the beginning, I was wary of sharing content of that nature, fearful I may turn people away.  Instead, it has been immensely heartening how so many of you (you know who you are) have stayed with me, laughed with me, and commiserated with me, as the occasion called for.

You know I love you.


Love, Sheela

p/s I know it hasn’t escaped your keen eye that there’s no 30s representation this month, what can I say?  Stuff happens.  Sigh.

pp/s photos by Sofia Touassa

I link up here.


  1. OMG this post still went through and I didn’t get the latest email from you Sheela (sigh!). Here I am still at SFO, not having the best internet connection at the hotel. And I guess you haven’t read my message to you at Faccebook. I will just try my best to promote your, Eve’s and Kat’s posts at my social media sites.

    On a style note – you always slay it Sheela, go keep it up! Have a wonderful weekend!



  2. sequinist says

    Interesting post today, Sheela. Like you, I’m SO annoyed when everyone seems surprised at a woman in a position of power. I worked in finance/Wall St for over 20 years, and I genuinely didn’t consider myself any different from the men I worked with. I rarely got misogynistic comments, and I don’t feel like being a woman hindered me in ANY way. If anything, it helped, because I was a novelty. It really felt like a meritocracy. Now that I’m blogging and working mostly with women, it is SO different and so much more supportive. I honestly wish women were in charge of nearly everything because I feel like the world would be a better place.


  3. YES! What a wonderful, thought provoking post! I love the goal digger idea and am so against the gender stereotypes that we still have. It’s a shame. Love the gold jacket you have on and those amazing rings!


  4. Goal digger indeed. We shouldn´t even be talking about this subject. It should be a thing of the passed, equal rights for all are long overdue.
    You look stunning and it is a pleasure to join you.
    Is it going to be Friday or Saturdays in the future???
    Enjoy your weekend Sheela
    Besos from Málaga, Spain


  5. I love it too! Goal diggers is so great. Thank you for the inspiration Sheela and for your fabulous sequined jacket!!


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  7. Totally agree on this, especially how we’ve evolved so far in other ways. I mean, we’ve put peple on the moon but can’t see each other as equal yet? Lame-o. Hope you’re having a good weekend though!

    Chow Down USA


  8. robjodiefilogomo says

    What a perfect play on words Sheela!!
    I understand what you are saying and it’s truth—but (as the devil’s advocate) I do feel like any change takes a long time, and thus we have come quite far compared to many countries!!
    Maybe I’m just so used to it from my dental days—especially when I was going through school and I would tell people I’m in dental school and they’d always say “to be a hygienist”. But I don’t think people were being mean about it—they just don’t think of all the possibilities!
    Good thing there are the pushers out there who keep pushing the boundaries and trying to make us equal (although we all know that women are really the better sex—ha ha!!)
    ps…as for your gold sequined blazer—now that’s dichotomy in one piece!! Love it!


  9. Mili says

    We have progressed when it comes to women’s rights but we have such a long way to go. Whether or not people agree with Hilary Clinton’s politics it bugs me when they talk about her hair, her clothing, her skin, etc. because nobody cares when it’s a male! I remember there was a Scandal episode where one of the female characters was talking to her boyfriend how differently they were treated by the media because of their gender. Anyways, thanks for your empowering words! I love those lace up wedges! The detail is so cool and something I’ve never seen done on the back of the shoe before🙂



  10. Thanks for introducing me to some new peeps Sheela.

    You know what bugs me about this topic? The old boys club. I don’t like when males get chummy in that exclusive manner. Drives me nuts! I’ll let you tackle that topic too!! Ha!

    As per usual, I adore your prose!

    Love, Annie


  11. I love it! Goal Diggers- I think you might have created a new phrase right there and don’t ever stop talking about these issues. We can never stop talking about them and moving forward. There is still so much work to be done.

    Thanks for linking up at Whatcha Wearing Wednesday!


  12. Tamara says

    So true what you said, a woman is never praised for her work there’s always:”it’s because of …”


    Tamara –


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