Gold Digger?
Or is it Goal Digger?
When a woman goes after her dreams, and achieves them, isn’t it odd annoying how often pundits claim it’s due to her Northward-bound hemlines or whom she slept with? Or because her dad is so and so? And why not her mum, for that matter? Anything save for, oh I don’t know, the fact that she might actually have earned those accolades? Because she’s intelligent? Determined? Deserving?
Instead of a gold digger, shouldn’t she be called a goal digger instead?
#WHYOHWHY
Dress (Urbanog) | Gold Sequin Blazer, Gold Polka Dot Socks & Gold Sunnies (Poshmark) | Helios Cuff (Cabi) | Wooden Rings (H&M) | Black & Gold Bucket Bag (Zara)
In as much as things have changed, things haven’t really changed all that much. Society still tends to favour the other gender (hint: it’s not us females) when it comes to peer recognition. And frankly, I find that to be such a contradiction to the vast advancements we’ve made, as a race, in all other aspects of life and living.
For instance, we blink nary an eyelid when the head of a corporation is male yet when a female holds that position, it’s such an anomaly that publicity is triggered. Media ink gets generated. Many exclaim, “Oh wow“, seemingly in amazement.
I SIMPLY DO NOT UNDERSTAND
Should it not be the norm? As versus the (still somewhat rare) exception?
To be perfectly honest, I’m not quite certain where these suffragette thoughts are arising from. I suppose I could peg it down to election imagery saturating the soapbox (and every other media channel) of late. Or my personal views on how women ought to be treated, given that I come from a background whereby my gender species kind was generally viewed merely as baby-makers, cooks, housekeepers, and bed-warmers.
SAY IT WITH ME, WE ARE GOAL DIGGERS.
Goal Diggers. And not Gold Diggers.
And that fully explains the rationale behind this month’s #projectsisteract theme. Ish. The play of words. Leveraging on something traditionally viewed as being an exchange of material gains for services rendered (to put it delicately), to mean something completely different. Goal Diggers. The pursuit of dreams. Being gutsy. Having balls (girl crushing on Samantha Bee).
Being fearless. Having moxie and pluck in spades. Such as wearing gold in a manner that’s cool and edgy. During the day, mind you. Less Mr Boombastic, more Jenny from the block. If that makes sense. It sort of does to me. And the following ladies.
Eve, Teens (the world according to eve)
Kat, 20s (kat walk sf)
Sheela, 40s (sheela writes)
Rebecca, 50s (red tag chic los angeles)
Angst over gender equality issues aside, I cannot help but be continually bowled over by how beautiful (these) women are. All beautiful. All unique. All special. So incredibly amazing, each and every one of them. And how differently the same theme is interpreted here (it never gets old). From body chains to accessories to head-to-toe liquid gold.
MIDAS TOUCH, YO
Before I go, I want to say I’m fully aware how the vast majority of what I write centres on issues pertaining to women, and equality of sexes, and that sort of thing. For those who consistently and faithfully read my pieces, from start to finish, and then proceed to leave such insightful comments, I thank you. From the very bottom of my heart.
In the beginning, I was wary of sharing content of that nature, fearful I may turn people away. Instead, it has been immensely heartening how so many of you (you know who you are) have stayed with me, laughed with me, and commiserated with me, as the occasion called for.
You know I love you.
NOW GO LINK UP
Love, Sheela
p/s I know it hasn’t escaped your keen eye that there’s no 30s representation this month, what can I say? Stuff happens. Sigh.
pp/s photos by Sofia Touassa
I link up here.
Love it!
XoXo,
Kat
http://www.katwalksf.com/
OMG this post still went through and I didn’t get the latest email from you Sheela (sigh!). Here I am still at SFO, not having the best internet connection at the hotel. And I guess you haven’t read my message to you at Faccebook. I will just try my best to promote your, Eve’s and Kat’s posts at my social media sites.
On a style note – you always slay it Sheela, go keep it up! Have a wonderful weekend!
Rebecca
http://www.redtagchiclosangeles.com
Another great post! Love your outfit! Fabulous dress.
Interesting post today, Sheela. Like you, I’m SO annoyed when everyone seems surprised at a woman in a position of power. I worked in finance/Wall St for over 20 years, and I genuinely didn’t consider myself any different from the men I worked with. I rarely got misogynistic comments, and I don’t feel like being a woman hindered me in ANY way. If anything, it helped, because I was a novelty. It really felt like a meritocracy. Now that I’m blogging and working mostly with women, it is SO different and so much more supportive. I honestly wish women were in charge of nearly everything because I feel like the world would be a better place.
Fabulous post, Love all of the gold outfits here. Gemma x
Love it – goal diggers!!! You look amazing with your sequin jacket.
Thank you for hosting and hope you are having a fab week!
Alice
http://www.happinessatmidlife.com
Hope to see you for TBT Fashion link up.
YES! What a wonderful, thought provoking post! I love the goal digger idea and am so against the gender stereotypes that we still have. It’s a shame. Love the gold jacket you have on and those amazing rings!
Goal diggers. Love it! You need a tee with that written on it : )
So nice to see so many women of different ages showcased together.
bisous
Suzanne
http://www.suzannecarillo.com
Sheela, you look freaking amazing girl. Head to toe gorgeous! Amazing post! Thanks for sharing! Happy weekend!
Much love, Len
http://www.lenparent.com
Beautifully said! I wouldn’t consider myself a feminist, but I do hate the issues in the workforce where men get more money wise or jobs faster. You and all the ladies featured here are amazing, beautiful.
Rachel xo
http://garaytreasures.com
Thanks for linking up to Top of the World Style. Great jacket!
I always enjoy your thought provoking posts, Sheela! And I love the phrase “goal digger!”
Everyone looks great in their “golden” outfits!
Happy Weekend!
Andrea
Andrea’s Wellness Notes
Goal digger indeed. We shouldn´t even be talking about this subject. It should be a thing of the passed, equal rights for all are long overdue.
You look stunning and it is a pleasure to join you.
Is it going to be Friday or Saturdays in the future???
Enjoy your weekend Sheela
Besos from Málaga, Spain
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I love it!! Goal diggers…no matter what your goal is (money, men, success, fame), keep digging. Ain’t no shame going after what you want!
xo Sheree
http://poshclassymom.com
IG: @poshclassymom
I love it too! Goal diggers is so great. Thank you for the inspiration Sheela and for your fabulous sequined jacket!!
Love both your outfit and the sentiment of your post! Goal diggers unite!
Tif
http://www.brightonabudget.com
I love your perspective on goal diggers.
Visiting from the link-up on East Coast Nat.
I love your style – following you on social media now.
http://Runwright.net
A good issue covered here. This is why your so good at this Sheela, you speak your mind. A good topic with some great fashion inspo too. X
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Totally agree on this, especially how we’ve evolved so far in other ways. I mean, we’ve put peple on the moon but can’t see each other as equal yet? Lame-o. Hope you’re having a good weekend though!
Chelsea
Chow Down USA
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What a perfect play on words Sheela!!
I understand what you are saying and it’s truth—but (as the devil’s advocate) I do feel like any change takes a long time, and thus we have come quite far compared to many countries!!
Maybe I’m just so used to it from my dental days—especially when I was going through school and I would tell people I’m in dental school and they’d always say “to be a hygienist”. But I don’t think people were being mean about it—they just don’t think of all the possibilities!
Good thing there are the pushers out there who keep pushing the boundaries and trying to make us equal (although we all know that women are really the better sex—ha ha!!)
jodie
http://www.jtouchofstyle.com
ps…as for your gold sequined blazer—now that’s dichotomy in one piece!! Love it!
We have progressed when it comes to women’s rights but we have such a long way to go. Whether or not people agree with Hilary Clinton’s politics it bugs me when they talk about her hair, her clothing, her skin, etc. because nobody cares when it’s a male! I remember there was a Scandal episode where one of the female characters was talking to her boyfriend how differently they were treated by the media because of their gender. Anyways, thanks for your empowering words! I love those lace up wedges! The detail is so cool and something I’ve never seen done on the back of the shoe before 🙂
Mili
Love the play between the gold outfits and gold nuggets of truth on “gold diggers.” Kudos on being an adept wordsmith and a playful soul not afraid to speak her mind.
xo
N
Style Tomes ||ST on IG
Love the word play of “Goal Diggers”! It’s a shame that women are still thought of as simply the cooks and the baby makers. I love all of these beautiful women with their pops of gold! And your outfit is amazing as always!!
~Lili
http://www.thefashionsalt.com
Love the lace details on the booties!
http://www.robincharmagne.com/blog
Thanks for introducing me to some new peeps Sheela.
You know what bugs me about this topic? The old boys club. I don’t like when males get chummy in that exclusive manner. Drives me nuts! I’ll let you tackle that topic too!! Ha!
As per usual, I adore your prose!
Love, Annie
I love it! Goal Diggers- I think you might have created a new phrase right there and don’t ever stop talking about these issues. We can never stop talking about them and moving forward. There is still so much work to be done.
Thanks for linking up at Whatcha Wearing Wednesday!
l,
Vicky
http://www.themummychronicles.com
So true what you said, a woman is never praised for her work there’s always:”it’s because of …”
XoXo,
Tamara – LoveofMode.com