A Little Unsteady

We all feel that way at times.

A little unsteady.  A little shaky.


Hanging by a thread.  Held together by nothing more than a breath and a prayer.  It’s hard.  It’s rough.  It’s gut-wrenching and incredibly painful.  And it seems as though there is no coming up for air.  No light at the end of a seemingly neverending tunnel.

Hanging by a thread can be really difficult.  And it sucks.

A lot.


But listen to me.  It’s going to be alright.

You can get through this.

Inhale.  Exhale.  The sun will still rise tomorrow.  The sky will still be blue.  You’re going to make it.  It will all work out.


You might feel broken.  You might feel as though you’re all alone and there’s no one there with you, for you, but that’s not true.  There’s a choir of angels by your side.  Angels you call friends.  Angels you can’t quite see.


You’re probably feeling devastatingly alone.  Adrift.  You think no one can hear you cracking.  Breaking.  Coming apart.  But you know what?  You are so much more than you know.   Years of layers, and lifetimes of experiences, and an arsenal of strengths to call upon.

You will not sink.

Others have gone through precisely what you’re going through right now.  Albeit in different contexts.  And in a myriad of settings.  Thousands and thousands of them before you, with you right now, and after you.  Really and truly.  Your picture of heartbreak, your strain of pain is part of the human fabric we call life.  Others before you?  They’ve survived this.  They came undone, and then put themselves back together again.  And when they did, they left a trail out of the pain for you to trace their steps, leading to the light.



Yes, it’s hard to have faith right now, but not only will it be okay, not only will you get through and over this, you will thrive again.   You will be clear and vibrant and incredible.  You will not only have more character and wisdom to offer the world, but you will feel more joy than you think is possible right now.

I promise you will.


You may walk with a limp.  You may wince when you look back, you may regret certain choices you made, turns you chose at crossroads, and that’s understandable, but you will feel more alive, and much more you.  You will be strong.  And you will feel a curious sensation of purpose.  And it will feel really, really fantastic.

What you’re going through right now is so difficult.

But it’s going to be okay.  More than okay.

Because you are loved.


Embroidered Poplin Shirt (Zara) | Leather Pants (Rag & Bone) | Bag (Ted Baker) | Heels (Ami Clubwear, similar) | Sunnies (Tory Burch) | Lipstick is Mary Jo (Kylie Cosmetics) | Box Ring (thrifted) | Blue Snakeskin Cuff (Unearthed) | Moonstone Ring, courtesy of Moonstone Magic

I’m doing something a little different today, and teaming up with Sheree of Posh Classy Mom to co-host Wednesday’s “Midweek Inspo” Link-Up.  I’ve been blessed to know some genuinely beautiful souls thanks to blogging, and Sheree is one of those.  A devoted working mother who somehow manages to look immaculately put together and poised all the time.  Don’t just take my word for it, mosey over to her blog and discover this for yourself, and remember to link up, loves.

An InLinkz Link-up

Love, Sheela

Finally made the transition to AV and am now on YouTube as well as Snapchat (sheela.goh), would adore your support through subscribing to my channel/adding my snaps. 

Pretty please?

p/s my photos are by Sofia Touassa

I link up here.


18 Replies to “A Little Unsteady”

  1. It is funny how some things can shake us to the core. And even when you know the fact that you’ll be fine, it still can be incredibly hard and make you question almost everything.
    As my husband always says “this too shall pass” and we know that. It’s life, right?

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  2. It is the faith that “it will all work out” that allows us to get to “how will I make it work”. There have been many time in my life that I’ve just had to go with “and this shall pass” and happily it always has. Thank you for this thought-provoking essay, the awesome photos, and the link up.


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  3. This is all entirely 100% accurate. I’m one of those unfortunate/blessed (depending upon how you view it) individuals who has gone through more than my fair share of sometimes incredibly painful situations starting very early in life. But you know what? It always, every single time, does pass. And the fabulous thing is you come out more beautiful on the other side as long as you learn and grow from the difficulties. I wouldn’t be who I am today if my life hadn’t been the train wreck that it sometimes has been. And for that, I am thankful.

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    1. Debbie, so well said! I have never viewed my sordid and painful past as unfortunate…I have always considered it a blessing! The more pain I have felt, the more I have appreciated all the beautiful blessings in my life now…and all along the way. I swear you ladies are like my soulmates in this crazy journey through life! I am so glad I found you all in this wonderful blogging world!



  4. You look amazing as always! I think it s all about accepting. If bad things happen to you(like a serious dissease)and you don t accept things as they are, then its not going to be alright! You have to accept and move on!


  5. Anyone who has read this post and needed to hear all of these things…and anyone reading the comments now, know this…Sheela is so, so right. And I know this because I, too, have traveled this dark road. It will get better and it will be even more fantastic than you ever dreamed it could be. Hang, hold on, and you will thrive.

    Another brilliant post, my friend, and another fabulous outfit.



  6. Life is a pendulum sometimes and in order to get to the places you want or need to be you have to first make it through the swing to the other side. Inevitably though, the swing comes back your way. And you’re stronger for it. In a world where physics rules, this perpetual motion still exists. It’s been a few days already, I hope you are already feeling better. Silver lining: you look awesome!


  7. I heard something once, and your post reminds me of it. When you crack and break you pull yourself back together. You are never quite the same. There are parts that don’t fit together as they originally did. But this is the beautiful part. Those cracks allow the light from your strength, the light from your heart, this light shines through the cracks. And it is a beacon to others. So love your cracks and imperfections, they are a guide for others to find their way. And their strength. xx


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