Day: 23 Sep, 2016

Comparison Bites & A Link-Up | Sheela Writes

Comparison Bites & A Link-Up

Ass kicker. Soul Crusher. A chew-you-up-and-spit-you-out deal.   Making comparisons is nothing new.  And, if you’re anything like me, you probably catch yourself falling into the ever-alluring yet emotionally-dangerous trap of comparing yourself to others.  Frequently. CAN I GET A YAAS? According to social comparison theory, we do this in an attempt to make accurate evaluations of ourselves.  But at what cost?  In as much as comparisons (and role models) are both invaluable and essential, we can’t be driving ourselves insane shadow-boxing those whom we think have done better, accomplished more than us.  Those whom we perceive to be in better, nicer places in their lives.  Emulation is a tricky terrain.  A slippery slope covered with the slime and mud of envy, with the immense potential of spinning us into a tail-chasing frenzy of self-doubt.  Hello. Social media hasn’t helped, really.  Distance no longer exists save for (a) when we physically board a plane; or (b) the time it takes for our ISP to actually do its job.  That which was once a beautiful gift in …