Overcoming style paralysis.
Getting rid of that mean ole funk.
Continuing on the topic of being uninspired (see original post here), today’s post addresses that first step towards
salvation the light – knowing what it is that we love. Remember this?
“We need to accept that our opinions and tastes can, and will, change. We need to put in the work to narrow down what we love, and realise it’s perfectly alright to have more than one thing that defines our style. Lastly, and this one is a no brainer (albeit the hardest to pull off), we need to have confidence. Only when we have confidence in the things we truly love, can we begin to move towards having a signature style.”
Let me punctuate that further with this phrase.
DO NOT FILL YOUR CLOSET WITH THINGS YOU LIKE, FILL IT WITH THINGS YOU LOVE
Words from the wise indeed.
Graphic White Tee (
stolen borrowed from Eve, turned inside out because I forgot to pack a second tee shirt for this look) | Culottes (Forever 21, option, option) | Plaid Bomber Jacket, Jewellery & Sunnies (thrifted) | Ankle Booties (GX by Gwen Stefani, similar)
The bad news is that defining what you love takes time and energy (duh). The good news is that it’s FUN work, and it’s well worth the effort. And it’ll pay off in cold hard cash since you might actually stop buying things you don’t love. Well, it’s only fun if you enjoy browsing through blogs and magazines and Pinterest and what not. C’mon, ‘fess up. You know you do. It’s only fun if you love thinking about what really makes you tick, and what truly inspires you.
So, my friend, if you were looking for a quick pep talk to get you out of that rut, and a 30 second quiz on defining your personal style, you’ve come to the wrong place. This one’s going to take a little bit of (fun) time.
First, find yourself a gorgeous blank notebook that makes you smile and dream. Or, if you’re impatient like me, open up a new document on the laptop. And now, enter personal style bootcamp. Find a corner to settle comfortably in, get a warm cup of whatever soothes your soul and delights your senses, play some music, light a candle if you want. Whatever works to calm and comfort both mind and heart. And get to work.
Take a look at the following list of steps to help you become singularly confident in what you love. To help your personal style rut dissipate. To achieve clarity amidst the sartorial clutter. Don’t skip any of the steps, I promise you’ll find the work fun, and the day-dreaming, dreamy.
- Start by drawing up a list of your own personal style words.
- Identify your own “don’t buy” word or words.
- Collect photos you love, then dissect what it is you love about them.
- Then hop onto Pinterest, create moodboards, clip magazines.
- Finally, pick your favourite-est colours.
On Friday, in the concluding part of our ankle bootie series, I’ll explain the 5 steps above but let me preface that by putting this out there – we must first accept a reality that can pose a huge obstacle in defining what we love.
Yes. It. Does. And here is the reality of things.
Some of us overdose on change, always trying something new, revamping, never fully evolving into our “true style“. Frittering away time and resources on pieces that “change things up”, not taking the time to wait for what we truly love. This group never realises its signature style. Some of us hide from change, letting fear of the new freeze us in our tracks. Indecisive. Unsure. Not daring to try. The upside is, yes, we’re not wasting time or money but in the not-wasting, our signature style is frozen, never recognised. And finally, there are some of us who feel defeated by change. Our mantra being, “why bother?“, thoughts like, “I’ll look stupid in that,” or “it’ll just go out of style next season,” rule our minds.
Any of that sound familiar?
And now, in the second installment of our boo-tee-full project (#sorrynotsorry), Jodie, Eve and I are showcasing pants of a shorter length. This is very much uncharted terrain for me because I’m so not a fan of anything that threatens to visually cut off my already length-challenged limbs. However, one must practice what one preaches, and therefore, I’m grabbing the bull by its pedal pusher horns!!
Behold, our array of ankle booties.
Eve, Teens (the world according to eve)
I know it’s a simple white tee with denim shorts but seriously, look at that divine floral embroidery. Bursts of happy colours, in direct contrast against the stark severity of Eve’s black wrap choker, and tasseled ankle boots. Love that backdrop too.
Sheela, 40s (sheela writes)
This outfit was pulled together in under 3 minutes and I really like it. I didn’t expect to because of the culottes (we all know how I feel about cropped pants in general) but I think the proportions worked out nicely here. Alleluia.
Jodie, 50s (jodie’s touch of style)
Pretty in pastels, Jodie’s boots are making me weak in the knees. Again. And I’m really appreciating how deftly this woman uses her glasses as an accessory (so clever). But most of all, I’m loving how print-mixing has become second nature for Jodie.
Nancy, 60s (jodie’s touch of style)
Polished and preppy pretty is how I’d describe Nancy’s look this time around. It’s the tiny nuances, my friend, the flirty chandelier drops accenting that scarf (bet you didn’t realise it was plaid), and them wee buttons dotting the cuffs of her capris.
Charlotte, 70s (jodie’s touch of style)
Charlotte, you are officially my style hero. Here, you look like a retired screen goddess, indulging in a quick stroll down Sunset Boulevard, completely impervious to all the stares and ogles you’re inciting #goals
Don’t forget to come back on Friday, for the concluding part of this collaboration wherein we’re styling these same ankle boots with … well, you’ll just have to wait and see 🙂 and stop by tomorrow too, I have a surprise for you.
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