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Being Glam & A Link-Up

Being Glam & A Link-Up | Sheela Writes

What does glam mean?

An over-the-top outfit perhaps?


Is it wearing sufficient make-up to rival that of a Kardashian?  Or some really well made undergarments that support, lift, and defy gravity?  I mean, really, what constitutes glam?  Looking all dolled up?  Or does it begin with feeling like you’re a million bucks?


As versus, you know, the impression of attraction (or fascination) that a carefully orchestrated appearance creates?  It could be a luxurious facade.  Or one exuding elegance.  Carefully orchestrated, with much thought and deliberation, to appear completely and utterly effortless.  Contrived nonchalance, if you like, carved to make an impression appear better than it actually is.

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Garments (thrifted) | Ruffled Collar (A Leap Of Style) (option) | Heels (Bakers)

I would argue that it is both.

Both the clothes we put on our bodies as well as how we feel.  The sequence of which comes first is, however, fluid.  Sometimes it’s a particular outfit which makes us stand a little taller, shoulders back, chest out.  Other times, there’s an extra pep in our step, in the way we toss our hair back, and choose the brightest, boldest shade of lipstick in our arsenal.  Yes?

I would also argue that the magic of glamour stretches far and beyond the stereotypical spheres of fashion, or of lifestyle, or even film.  That the hand of glam influences what we buy, where we choose to live, the sort of careers we pursue, the people we choose to associate with (all that birds of a feather thing is really real, I tell ya), and many other decisions that come our way throughout the day.

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And, for the most part, the vast majority of us do not even realise how pivotal a role “glam” (or “glamour”) plays in that decision-making process.

Suffice to say glamour is firmly entrenched as one, if not the most, powerful forms of nonverbal persuasion, one that taps into our most secret dreams and deepest yearnings to influence our everyday choices.

Astounding, isn’t it?  The importance of this itty bitty four letter word.


Astounding but oh so true.

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To clarify, there is a distinct difference between glamour and glitz too.  All that glitters isn’t necessarily golden by default, a concept I struggled with over the years, and have only just to terms with recently.  Glamour can be savoured in small yet nonetheless heady doses, as it can well also be experienced under far more expansive circumstances.

From where I’m standing, “glamour” is that pleasurable pang of desire.  A distinctive sensation of projection and yearning, which is not to be confused with envy or jealousy, or to put it bluntly, to covet thy neighbour’s goods.

A sensation which I deployed to full use in fashioning the outfit before you.   I asked myself what would I want to see on another woman that would make (a) my eyes really pop out of my head; (b) me want to tear the clothes off her back; and (c) me long to be her.  I’m being completely honest and serious here.  And this is what I came up with.

Being Glam & A Link-Up | Sheela Writes

So, I suppose, you could theorise that today, you’ve come face-to-face with my alter ego.  The confident, bold, empowered, glam side of Sheela.  The one who’s got her shit together all the time (or at least appears to have her shit all together), and takes on the world, one feminist, glamorous stride at a time.

Say hi.  And welcome to the October edition of Project Sister Act and five visual stories of how we (women spanning teens, 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50s) thumb up our noses at societal expectations when it comes to the clothes we wear. This month, we are trumpeting novel (and unexpected) compositions of colour, texture and print, all in the name of Avant Garde (full credit goes to Eve for coming up with the theme).  Come see.

Eve (the world according to eve)

The World According To Eve

How positively gorgeous does Eve look?  Like a modern day witch.  Dramatic and striking, with pops of colour on lips, eyes and boots.  I love her interpretation of the theme, and you really ought to go check out her Instagram feed (@phinayi) for a video showing how dreamy this outfit moves in the wind.

Chasmine (the glamazon universe)

The Glamazon Universe

I must say that this is the most unexpected take on this month’s theme.  So perfectly laidback and breezy with super cool details to up the ante.  From those pointy toed boots to the shoulder epaulets of her coat, Chasmine looks the epitome of the millenial avant garde.  And can we highlight that amazing hair????

Joi (in my joi)

In My Joi

Love love Joi’s interpretation.  I told her it reminded me of Lil Eddie meets Riri right there.  Do you see it?  I think the fur collar and those kicks play a huge role in that vibe, yes, but it’s mostly her cool personality.  Those blue nails.  That bright fuchsia on clutch and lips.  It all comes together.

Me (sheela writes)

Being Glam & A Link-Up | Sheela Writes

That’s me, in my thrifted clothing glory, a real-life case study of not needing to spend a million bucks to look like a million bucks.

Jacqueline (petite silver vixen)

Petite Silver Vixen

I’m in love with this.  Jacqueline looks STUNNING and not in the slightest bit costumey which is so hard to pull off when attempting anything remotely steampunk.  I mean, how brilliant is she, navigating three different prints.  This is my absolute fave outfit in quite possibly the entire history of Project Sister Act.

And that, my friends, is Project Sister Act for October 2016.  Truth be told, I struggled with my own outfit in the beginning (in fact, this was my second attempt) but I feel it went decently.  My heartfelt thanks go to each and every single woman in this line-up.  You are (so very) loved.

Don’t forget to link up.

Love, Sheela

Finally made the transition to AV and am now on YouTube as well as Snapchat (sheela.goh), would adore your support through subscribing to my channel/adding my snaps. 

Pretty please?

p/s my photos are by Sofia Touassa

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  1. robjodiefilogomo says

    Tools. That’s how one person just described clothing. And I have to agree—because really our clothing is no different than a Halloween costume. They can make us feel different and oh so many other adjectives!
    I love how a word like glam (good job Eve) can be interpreted so many different ways. It, of course, all depends on your perspective!
    And truly, like you have said & shown—money does not make an outfit!!
    Can you tell me about the scarf? around your neck. Or is it a necklace? It’s super cool whatever it is…but I might need to copy it!

  2. All of you ladies are goddesses – thanks for a great article, Sheela! 🙂

  3. I love this! I suppose I havent dwelled on the subject too much. Glam always makes me feel like there is an ultra-confidence, a look, an aura someone gives off. These looks are just that, in different ways. Love your outfit, the sparkle and that jacket! I too, think your frilly necklace is so cool!
    jess xx

  4. Love how this all came together Sheela-thank you!! Glam/Glamour definitely plays a part in my style choices- I love to wear/do what makes me feel good 🙂

  5. Oh my, oh my, oh my! 😍 Words fail me in expressing my love for this theme and your depiction. The photos are stunning and you are certainly glamour personified. All of the other sisters look fabulous as well. Thank you for sharing this wonderful discussion and for hosting.


  6. Since I’m usually a minimalist when it comes to dressing up, glam is pretty much the full on glitz and dazzle complete with show stopping jewels. But I can totally see the subtle glam that is more demure.

    ~ xo Sheree
    Posh Classy Mom

  7. Sheela, I’m positively blushing at your compliments towards my outfit! Really? Quite possibly your favourite in the entire history of Project Sister Act? I’m really touched. Wow, that is quite a wonderful thing to say about it. I absolutely loved doing this and had so, so, so much fun putting it together so thank you for inviting me, otherwise I probably wouldn’t have been inspired enough to do it.
    And I love all the other outfits the ladies put together and will be popping over to each of them in the next day or two. And all credit to Eve too. I shall amend my post to say that the theme was her idea.
    I love your description of glamour – the pleasurable pang of desire. You are on fire in your outfit Sheela. The confidence is compelling and irresistible and utterly beguiling. Isn’t it extraordinary the stories that clothes can tell for us. It’s a never ending tale that swoops and soars. Thank you again for your inspiring words.

  8. shelbeeontheedge1 says

    So fabulous, Sheela! I have struggled recently with how my every day seems to be defined by what I am going to wear…not wanting to seem vain and frivolous. But then I realized this is how I have always been…completely fascinated with clothing, outfit choices, and how what I wear can change how I feel. How my clothing can create an entirely new persona that I want but could not seem to accomplish on my own without a change of clothing. And suddenly I became so much more accepting of myself. This is who I am. I love clothes and fashion and planning my outfit and getting dressed and looking my best. Every. Single. Day. And while it may seem vain to some, it does not change who I am. I am still kind and generous and accepting and passionate and caring and loving and fun and silly and off the edge. I just look good while being all of that! Thank you for another amazing post and another amazing outfit to ogle at!


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