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Legacy & A Link-Up

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Leaving a legacy.

What you want to be known for.


I’m still reeling.  In the devastating aftermath of appointing a sexist, racist, misogynistic larger-than-life to lead the world’s most powerful, most influential nation for the next four years, I’m still reeling.  I’ve never shared my political views on the blog and despite my sentiment that class is moving out, and white trailer trash is moving in, I’m not about to start.

I, will, however, talk about something very important. 


What you want to be known for.

If I am not for myself, who is for me?  And when I am for myself, what am I?” is the well-known aphorism from Hillel, a famous Jewish rabbi.

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Red White & Blue Moto Jacket (Forever21) | Ripped Red Skinny Jeans (NY & Co) | Floral Top, Rings & Sunnies (thrifted) | Ankle Booties (JustFAB) 

But then again, who expects that of me?  I’m just a regular person.  Nobody cares what I leave behind, or what I do or say.  Nobody will remember me beyond my family.  Nobody pays attention or cares about what I contribute to the human race!  I’m not obligated to the world.  I’m just trying to survive, and as long as I take care of my family, keep my kids from going off the rails, don’t kill anybody, maybe have a little fun, that’s good enough for me.


A legacy isn’t only about leaving what you earned but also what you learned, and we all have an opportunity to make a difference. It doesn’t call for wealth, fame or even taking giant steps.  “Legacy” isn’t just for the rich and/or the famous.  We each create our own every single day.  The fact is, whether you’re thinking about it or not, value it or not, your legacy is being created, either consciously or unconsciously, with or without your curation.

And in this present climate, it is ever so much more important that we decide what it is we want to be remembered for.  Frankly, I’ve come to believe that ignoring the task of legacy (or allowing it to formulate without conscious thought) has contributed greatly (or not so greatly, as it were) to the toxification, the dumbing down, the weakened striving for and inarguable lessening of what have long been considered desirable human traits: integrity, compassion, humanity, generosity, honor, and open-mindedness.

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Instead, we live in a world where too many presume they’re invisible enough to not be held responsible for their actions.  A world where the self-absorbed think nothing about the negativity they leave in their wake, the ugliness they inject into their sphere.  People who care so little about “making the world a better place,” or “living an admirable life, even if for no one but oneself,” that they pillage and plunder with impunity.

They leave tweets of incomprehensible stupidity that sometimes have lasting and powerful effect.  They engage in thoughtless, destructive email exchanges as if “no one’s watching” or hacking hadn’t become normalised in a world of zero privacy.  They forget that screenshots can immortalise deleted threads, hateful speech, and knee-jerk reactions later regretted.  They spend precious hours of life sharing hateful dialogue and trolling those who might not share their beliefs.  They bully and attack with little concern for who they hurt or what negativity they foment.  They steal art, denigrate kinder people, and make any online exchange a brutal gauntlet.

And they do all this with impunity, because they’re either hiding behind a screen name, they’re convinced they won’t be found out;  they think they’re entitled or above reproach, or they simply don’t care.  They don’t care if their persona, their name, their identity, the essence of who they are is attached to something heinous and hideous.  They don’t care about legacy.


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Whatever you might believe about spiritual life, life beyond the physical realm, or the existence of energy and consciousness, the fact remains that what we create has impact.  On us, our families, our friends, the communities where we live, the countries to which we pledge our allegiance; the global alliance we call the human race.  It doesn’t matter if you’re famous, notorious, large, small, or in-between, you have impact.  Visible, not visible, felt, not felt; ignored, denied, or dismissed.

You have impact.  That’s your legacy.

Even if you’re someone who doesn’t give a f*** about what that impact is, the way you affect and influence your children, your personal circle, the world, anything and everything you touch IS your legacy.  You should care about that.

Because there can be no purpose in life more important than making one’s imprint of value.  We may not be able to control whether we succeed, gain fame and fortune, or become the kind of person whose death inspires Facebook posts, but that can’t be the criteria.  The criteria for any person’s legacy is simply this – make everything you say, do, write, create, share, influence, or affect be something your children, your mother, your father, your spouse, the people you care most about, YOU, would be unequivocally proud of.

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Do no harm.

Control your anger, your hate, and the urge to damage or demean.

Embrace the simplest of rules like “do unto others.

Stoke empathy at every turn by considering how your words and actions would feel to you then act accordingly.

If nothing else, do think about if you were famous and people were talking about you after you died.  What would they say?  What would they celebrate?  How would you be remembered?  And would you be comfortable with what you come up with?

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Morbid?  Perhaps.

But sometimes we have to jar ourselves into understanding more clearly the impact we do have.  Little things add up, good and bad, and what you leave behind really ought to be something meaningful.  Thesaurus offers one synonym for “legacy” that I’m particularly partial to – GIFT.  Where I come from, it’s cultural to always leave a gift when one is a guest.  And given the brief, transient nature of life, I’d suggest that we’re all guests in every moment we live.  And, ergo, gifts should be regularly left, which only serves to affirm my thesis.

Your legacy is your gift.

Think about the gifts you leave behind.

Love, Sheela

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  1. As a person who has been pretty much without parents my entire adult life, I am constantly accessing what I want my children to learn from me and remember me for. Building traditions and setting examples I long for them to take to heart are extremely important to me.

    I really like your color block moto jacket and distressed crimson jeans. The pretty floral underneath was a sweet surprise. 🙂

  2. shelbeeontheedge1 says

    I am choosing to leave kindness behind me as my legacy. I am seriously starting a Spread the Kindness Movement. I am going to inject kindness into this world at every turn, every breath, every waking moment. Every where I am seen or heard, there will be kindness spewing from my being. If I cannot “kill them with kindness”, I will at least die being kind. And that is my legacy. Won’t join my movement? #SpreadTheKindness


  3. Current events definitely have people on edge, I am so thankful for my core belief system. I try to treat people the way that I would like to be treated and expect the same in return. In other news, love your destroyed denim jeans!

  4. andreaswellnessnotes says

    I love the idea of legacy and the reminder that everything we do (or don’t do) becomes part of our legacy. It’s so important to remember that everything we do (and stand for) does matter!

    Have a great weekend!

    Andrea’s Wellness Notes

  5. Hmmm, what will my legacy be? Gosh Sheela. You always leave me stunned. Let me give this one a think, maybe a night’s sleep. I’ll text you in the morning. Or maybe right now.

    How, oh how, do you master profoundness in every single written word. Are you a philosopher and we don’t know that bit yet? I think so, Yes, I declare it so.

    Love you. Annie from Kremb de la Kremb

  6. First I shall address the outfit…that jacket is un-freakin’-believable….love, love, love it! And the color of the jeans is gorgeous.
    Now, onto the important stuff. Yes, to everything that you said. Our legacy means everything; both on a personal level and in light of the current situation, on a national level. I realize that I can only be truly responsible for my own legacy, which is and always will be unconditional love and acceptance, but I think we all need to become an active part of a much larger collective. A larger collective that will be heard; whose legacy will be not only love, but whose legacy will be those who were willing to fight back the darkness and evil and left this country a better place than it is right now.
    PS…I don’t typically pimp my own posts, but I’d love for you to stop by and weigh in on my post from yesterday…you know I love your thoughts. xo

  7. This is an interesting viewpoint and holds a lot of truth. Thanks. I often find I want to disengage with the whole world (with some exceptions) because of the way people have become in relation to others. But engaging with the thought of legacy in your mind may be better coping strategy. To be a kindness bubble in a world of selfishness. To treat people right when many don’t. It’s behaviour to aspire to.

    You look awesome. As usual. Great jacket! And ps, sorry about what happened there in the States. Even here in Oz there is a lot of sadness and distress that this could happen, and a lot of debate. I really hope so much work towards unity and equality isn’t ruined over the next four years.

  8. I love this post. I woke up Wednesday morning with a pit in my stomach. I’m worried about the legacy America as a whole is gong to leave over the next 4 years. I hope to do whatever I can to make a positive impact and not spread the hate.

  9. Beautifully written! If only more people would think this way maybe the world would be a kinder place. Thank you for provoking me to think about my own legacy, how I hope to someday leave this earth and leave a good and kind impression for my children to remember and follow.
    I love your jacket!

  10. Such a thoughtful post and so timely. Hoping we all think about leaving some kindness wherever we go.

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  12. I am still a bit numb, Sheela, but every word you wrote here speaks in a way I would speak if I could find the words. Thank you for them. I will write more another time, but for now, I go percolate and determine my direction and how I want my legacy to look when I’m no longer here.

    Also, you look fabulous. ❤️

    – Sherry

  13. Thanks for linking up to Top of the World Style. you always have the most amazing shoes and leather jackets! Great outfit.

  14. Aside from being your best post to date, this is very inspiring and insightful. I knew there were other reasons why I love you, aside from your looks!

    I do want to say though what you have been trying to avoid. It is clear that half of this country we all love so much, has decided that their legacy will be one of hatred, discrimination, misogyny, fear, refusal of science, refusal of logic altogether. The Medieval Ages weren’t dark because there was no sun. They were dark because peoples’ minds were obscured by the very same believes that apparently half of the US now shares. Coincidentally, the world was rather warm at that time as well. Those times lasted about 800 years. Let’s just hope ours don’t last more than 4.

  15. I don’t usually talk about politics either and always appreciate your candor and openness. We need to just move forward as a country and all as individuals.

    You look fabulous in the faux leather jacket and ripped jeans!

    ~ xo Sheree
    Posh Classy Mom

  16. Yes, there are some moments which make you think about your own legacy. Big moments, important moments… maybe important from world point of view, maybe something less significant, but they come…. And you have 2 possibilities. 1st one (the obvious one) is to ignore it and live happily ever after. Or to start to think about it and to do something about it. My wake up call was birth of my son. I realize how everything matters: what I do, how I live, what i say, ….
    Thank you for this post Sheela.

    Anna xoxo

    P.S.: You look fab. o)

  17. The legacy I want to leave behind is freedom of speech for those who views differ than yours. This election was won because of political correctness. The left refused to hear the concerns of the right and they drove them underground, into hiding, instead of listening to them. We need to stop screaming at each other, beating each other up because they voted different than them. We need to talk, and be allowed the freedom to express what were thinking and feeling. How do we learn, how do we change, if we can’t even talk about things? Have you seen this theatrical monologue on Facebook? It’s quite interesting and he nails what happened right on the head. https://www.facebook.com/JonathanPieReporter/

  18. This is an incredibly powerful post. I do agree wholeheartedly, your legacy is forged every day of your life, whether you are conscious of it or not. How we treat our friends, our kids and our family has a tremendous impact on the world around us, even if we don’t see it. WE are the ones who shape the world, not a handful of political leaders. We are responsible for the society of today and tomorrow, because we comprise it. Each and every one of us. And the more of us believe our legacy doesn’t matter, or our actions don’t trigger reactions, the more we all descend into darkness as a society.
    That being said, people like Trump validate the most despicable thoughts and feelings, which we all have to an extent. It’s just that we shouldn’t act upon them. Let’s hope compassion and love prevail over fear and hate this time. Because the fight is never ending, both inside our society and inside us as individuals.

  19. Sheela, what an insightful article. It is so true … I’ve work hard all my life to be a positive influence to anyone who crossed my path. It hurts my heart and soul to see others being so vindictive, full of hatred and lack of respect for others … I simply just stay in my corner of the world hoping that my words land on ears that need to hear … that’s my legacy … my words will forever be even when I am no longer here. xo

  20. What an amazingly thoughtful and inspiring post. I have been thinking a lot about this topic here lately – about how important it is to live a life that inspires my daughter to strive for greatness, to be caring and to want to make the world around her a better place. Actions are much more powerful than words so it all starts with us. People are too often concerned with themselves these days and I am working to make sure I don’t myself fall into that same trap and continue to be the person that I want my future generation to be. 🙂


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