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Unleash Your Fearlessness

Unleash Your Fearlessness | Sheela Writes

Let it loose.

Let it shine bright.


Deep down, we know we’re wired for something bigger, something better.  We’re not afraid to break the rules.  We know that fearlessness extends far and beyond a job title, or a business, or (for that matter) any definition that isn’t our own.

We have a passion, an idea, or a business which we were born to build.

We are incredible.

We are unstoppable.

We are you, we are me, we are us.

Unleash Your Fearlessness | Sheela WritesUnleash Your Fearlessness | Sheela Writes

I am strong because I know my weaknesses.

I am beautiful because I am aware of my flaws.

I am fearless because I have faced my demons.

I am a lover because I have felt hate.

I can laugh because I have known sadness.

 Unleash Your Fearlessness | Sheela WritesUnleash Your Fearlessness | Sheela Writes

Imagine what the world would be like if all women lived fearlessly. 

Imagine if we were empowered to do, to conquer, and to triumph over that which frightens us.  Imagine if we truly believed that success is about more than just building a profitable business, that it’s about building an extraordinary life.  About leaving a legacy.  Just imagine that.

We would love ourselves (more), become happier, and feel alive.

Our untapped potential, set free. 

The possibilities, limitless.

Unleash Your Fearlessness | Sheela WritesUnleash Your Fearlessness | Sheela Writes


Stop doubting and start doing.  Unleash your full potential.  Release yourself from the confines of limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging habits.

Stop doubting and start doing.

Create the forward momentum you need to skyrocket your happiness and success, so you truly become UNSTOPPABLE.  A driving force.

Unleash Your Fearlessness | Sheela WritesUnleash Your Fearlessness | Sheela Writes

Silk Tie (borrowed from the man, option, option) | Navy Velvet Duster Cardigan (Boohoo, option, option) | Faux Leather Leggings (exact, option) | Booties (option, option) | Studded Lip Clutch (option, option) | Bowie Tee, Jewellery & Sunnies (thrifted)

Be unapologetically (and authentically) you.

Create the life you were meant to live. 


Welcome, friend, to the second of a “no such thing as a gender-specific item of clothing” tri-part movement, jointly presented to you by Jodie and her ladies, Eve, and myself (see the first installment here, wherein we literally borrowed a shirt from the men in our lives).  This time around, we’re celebrating the use of accessories from our menfolk such as ties and belts and scarves.  Have a look.

Eve, Teens (the world according to eve)

The World According To Eve

This is my favouritest look from today’s line-up.  Eve looks sassy and spunky and kick-assy here, sporting her stepdad’s tie as a hairband.  Yup, that lil blue number on her head is a silk tie that’s probably loads older than she is.  And how fun is her Canadian tuxedo???  Call me biased but her outfit is, by far, the edgiest on the block.

Sheela, 40s (sheela writes)

Unleash Your Fearlessness | Sheela Writes

It wasn’t a very inspired moment for me, I admit but in the end, I opted for the tried and tested Joan Jett/Pat Benatar/Blondie look, and wore my husband’s tie as a tie, albeit loose and, in my opinion, way cooler.  That coupled with the leather, the Bowie tee ,and the heels made it signature Sheela.  Oh, and I threw in some velvet for a hint of gothic romance.

Jodie, 50s (jodie’s touch of style)

Jodie's Touch Of Style | Jodie

You turn it around, fold it here, and tuck it in there, and voila, a pocket square becomes a delightful scarf!!  And that’s precisely what Jodie did here.  Super clever.  And if that wasn’t enough, her sweater with its subtle origami weaves is just fabulous.  It reminds me so much of Miyake, and of Japanese avant garde fashion in general.

Nancy, 60s (jodie’s touch of style)

Jodie's Touch Of Style | Nancy

Nancy’s wearing the pants belt in this camp.  Wearing a top-stitched brown leather belt, to be specific, and deftly avoiding the issue of expansiveness by cinching it around her hips, cutting an elongated and much more slender silhouette.  I really fancy that vest of hers, incidentally, reminds me of something Emily Payne of Project Runway created.

Charlotte, 70s (jodie’s touch of style)

Jodie's Touch Of Style | Charlotte

And here’s Charlotte, in a man’s hat, looking truly spiffy and spirited.  It’s so refreshing to see bursts of red around the neck (something which belonged to her dad, by the way) and below the cuffs, providing loads of visual as well as textural contrasts.  Perhaps the most beautiful of accent of all, however, is that gorgeous, welcoming smile on her face.

Do come back and visit on Friday, to see the concluding episode of this menswear saga, wherein we take on the business of men’s jewellery.  And that’s also when my weekly Project Sister Act Link-Up goes live.  Until then, you’re a force of nature in your own right, and don’t you forget it.

Force Majeure.

Love, Sheela

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  1. www.nancysfashionstyle.com says

    Again you all came up with a great item to style! I used to wear a lot of men tie s . I love the way you wear yours!


  2. Yeah, it definitely feels like the time for us to be fearless. We’ve all waited our turn hoping to be noticed and patted on the head. I’m tired of waiting and am claiming what I want. I define myself and I define my life. So invigorating to read this this morning. I might not even need my cup of coffee!



  3. robjodiefilogomo says

    I wonder why it takes us so long to realize that being fearless is such a good thing?
    That’s one of the reasons I would never want to be young again—there was so much angst and worry!! And with friends like you—we can conquer the world!!
    I love your comment on the Canadian tuxedo—I’d never heard that before—cracked me up!!
    And I love your tie with the graphic tee—it flows like the duster and creates great movement!!
    ps…I’m trying not to gush over your shoes each time as I’m sure it’s getting redundant. Just know in your heart that I’m willing to take any pair off your hands at any time!! 🙂


  4. I agree, the TEXAS Tuxedo looks wonderful ; P Funny how in Canada we call it that and in the US they call it Canadian. Ha!

    Unlike Jodie I’d be young again in an instant.

    I find the older I get the more fearful I become. It’s not pleasant. Before I’d jump and not worry if there was a net. Now I’m researching for days, what if the net fails? who manufactured the net? etc. It’s tiresome.

    I’m drooling over your velvet duster.



  5. Wow! I really am smitten with that duster. Might just go pay Poshmark a lil visit….

    Or check to see if Boohoo still has it–they ship to HK.

    Maybe my purpose is to create some sort of substantial swapping community here in Hong Kong….

    Lovely, lovely styling by all. And yes, Eve’s is extraordinary. I love the stripes on her jacket!

    Love, Annie


  6. andreaswellnessnotes says

    I needed the reminder to be (more) fearless!

    I like all of your outfits! I love your duster with the faux leather leggings. I think the tie works really well with it. And, yes, the fabulous shoes make it a true Sheela outfit! 🙂

    Andrea’s Wellness Notes


  7. One – reading this was amazing . . . I an only imagine what we would be like if we realized what life really is about I have been trying to be more fearless lately trying to live a happier life. Two- I love your outfit lol

    Life is just Rosie


  8. Liz says

    This post spoke to my heart. Your writing is just amazing and it never fails to make me really stop and think about things. Most times, we (or I) are too busy to think about what we want. We just go through the motions hoping something will happen. But have to make that happen. Thanks for that reminder!



  9. thestylesplash says

    You have such an awesome collection of shoes! I love your fearless style and go-getter attitude! I don’t think my husband has anything worth borrowing or I’d give it a try 🙂

    Emma xxx


  10. You’re writing often lights a fire under my ass and this post is no exception my friend. The events of the last couple of weeks have made me realize I need to be more aware, more involved, actually do more; and part of that requires fearlessness. You are so right…if we were all a little more fearless we would be unstoppable!


  11. I agree, Sheela, it’s time for women to become fearless and realize their own worth. When I was younger I was a go getter … trudging forward without thought or fear to accomplish my goals. As I age I have found that I’m a little more conscious of my path and tend to tread a bit more lightly … thinking out every move … but I still hit every goal post without letting any negativity enter my path … If someone tells me I can’t I will stretch myself out of my comfort zone to show them that I can and I do. xo


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