A simple question.
How do you set your standards?
How do you define your ethics? Determine whether something is black or white? And when does grey come into play? Let me briefly explain.
SOMEONE TRIED TO SCREW ME OVER
It had to do with that unholy triad.
You know, trademark, money, and, well, blatant stupidity.
Anyway, that unpleasant incident led to a series of conversations between me, myself and I, as we extensively dissected ways and means in which we
would could handle the protagonist whom I shall call PITA (pain in the ass).
The following thoughts were raised:-
> PITA started out as a groupie. A major fan. So that means she must have a good heart underneath all that, well, nasty back-stabbing bitchiness. Right?
> Maybe she truly doesn’t know what she’s doing is illegal?
> Yes, PITA acted in very poor taste. She was unethical, to say the least, but perhaps, just perhaps it was unintentional?
> Or, dare I say, imitation is the most sincere form of flattery?
On and on went my internal debate. I discussed at length, with myself, those things we coin as grey zones. Loopholes. Legalities. Ethics.
I mean, perhaps what seemed to me as being an act of dishonesty may very well have simply been a misunderstanding? Perhaps I misconstrued the intent? Made much ado about nothing? And, in the process, created a mountain out of naught but a molehill?
HAD I OVERREACTED?
I thought the easiest way to put an end to this debate was to pose this question to myself, “Would I ever do to someone else what PITA tried to do to me?”
And the answer was a resounding, “NO!“
“Never!! No way!! Not!!”
Well then, I said declared to myself, this is truly unethical behaviour.
What PITA did.
Black Lace Gown (Monique Lhuillier) | Colour Block Fur Coat (vintage) | Velvet Peep Toe Booties (Bakers) | Spiked Lip Clutch (Lulu Guinness) | Choker (Manic Panic NYC)
Listen. Forget what society terms as the legal “grey area“. Don’t be swayed for formalities or policies. By the wide expanse of cultural or moral codes. I say look behind the manoeuvre to decipher the intent. And then call it out for what it is. Tacky, nasty, greedy, desperate, vengeful, parasitic, shady, immoral, or just plain wrong. According to who? According to you. And that’s the only voice that matters.
When you are in a position wherein you must question the motive behind someone’s actions, ask yourself, “Is this something I would do?”
The answer will guide you forward.
And yes, this is what I wore to the debutante ball I talked about last week.
And now, on a far more lighthearted note, I am SO thrilled to be co-hosting Thursday Fashion Files with Jill at Doused in Pink and Carrie at Curly Crafty Mom. I’ve long been fans of both ladies, and couldn’t wait to sign up to be a co-host.
Welcome to Thursday Fashion Files!
Welcome to Thursday Fashion Files with Jill at Doused in Pink and Carrie at Curly Crafty Mom! We are excited to have you here and would love to have you link up one of your latest outfits with us.
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Sheela from Sheela Writes is our co-host this week.
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p/s my photos are by Sofia Touassa
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