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Recharge, Reboot, Reset

A fresh start.


This will be a short one, my friends.  Yes, it does seem rather inadequate given that I’ve been silent and missing for a month.  But change is a-foot.  In my heart.  Within the family.  On the blog.  And that change has not only opened my eyes to an expanded level of awareness, it has also aided me in concluding how I am meant to continue on this writing journey.


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Which is not a bad thing.

Starting from scratch can be good.

I’m certain many would concur that we all need to use that reset button now and again.  When time seems to pass ever. so. very. slowly.  When everything seems tried and tested, done and done.  When one begins to turn a deaf ear to the crisp rustle of turning pages.  And when the sight of lightning streaking across the sky no longer brings about a sigh of contentment and pleasure.  Well, those are my personal indicators, yours may very well be much different but I know you understand what I’m saying.

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When what used to be titillating and exciting becomes mundane and insipid. That’s when you know that it’s time to clear the mind, and wash the palette clean (I love you, Pat).

So here I go, exercising use of my reset button.

I am rebooting the way things have been transpiring here on the blog, and going back to the core things that mattered.  Topics which are ever near and dear to me.  Which put passion in my soul and fuel my senses.  I just feel that over the past year, I’ve strayed far too far from those pursuits.  From the roots that keep me grounded.  And that cannot must not be.

And also, friends, there are numerous things happening in my life (some for better, some not so much) that I can no longer confine what I write to merely my existing line-up of topics.  There are added thoughts and opinions to be shared and elaborated upon, and my current platform does not allow for that.

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Yes, change is coming, it is inevitable, and it is damn well good.

And as part of that recharging process, today marks my last participation in The Fab 40s series. It has been a joyous ride full of anticipation and surprises since I started this project in March 2015, and I can’t imagine leaving on a higher note.

Now, please join me in this final installment of the Fab 40s (for me, anyways, you can still, and should, visit the blogs of all these other ladies as they continue the trajectory), as we get dolled up in our favourite colours.  Suffice to say, my choice(s) weren’t all that unexpected, huh?

Ann, Kremb de la Kremb

Kremb de la Kremb

Smooth and velvety.

Diane, Fashion On The Fourth Floor

Fashion On The Fourth Floor

Fresh and breezy.

Jennie, A Pocketful Of Polka Dots

A Pocketful Of Polka Dots

Lighting up the room.

Mary, Curly Byrdie

Curly Byrdie

Pep in my step.

Sam, Fake Fabulous

Fake Fabulous

Pretty in pink (c’mon, you knew that was coming, Sam).

Veronica, CID Style File

Strong and sassy.

Our guest for May is none other than Catherine of Not Dressed As Lamb.

If, like me, you’ve long been a fan of the “dressing to please no one else save myself” mantra, then her name will most certainly come (easily) to mind.  And for good reason too.  Catherine has been championing our rights to throw style rules out of the window, and enjoy fashion for what it is, for some time now, and once you read her posts, you’ll see why I’ve been a Catherine groupies for ages.

And, of course, there’s me.

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Cheekily playing with the interpretation of my fave colours with achromatic tones.  I mean, both Black and White have been right up there on my list of must-wear colours since I was 6 or 7 years old.  And Red, whilst fairly new to my wardrobe (we bonded when I was in my late 20s, I believe), is THE colour I don whenever I want to kick some ass so why not kickass red lips?  I mean, going out with a bang is the only way, yes?

So, what’s your ABSOLUTE go-to colour to wear?


Love, Sheela

Finally made the transition to AV and am now on YouTube as well as Snapchat (sheela.goh), would adore your support through subscribing to my channel/adding my snaps. 

Pretty please?

p/s my photos are by Sofia Touassa

I link up here.


  1. You are fearless, bold, intellectual, & yes, a badass! I know I’m not much of a comment-maker, but today was a must! Much like you, I’ve been in my head for weeks knowing I need to lift the lift red glass lid, press the big red bottom & RESET! I need to go back to my roots & retrace my steps. Thank you so much for sharing & always striking a cord with me! You are amazing Sheela!


  2. shelbeeontheedge1 says

    You may be parting ways with the Fab 40’s but you will always be fabulous! And I have no idea where you plan to go with your blogger journey, but since I now consider you a dear (albeit remote) friend, I do so hope our paths will cross again in real life! You look stunning as usual!

    I have just added some amazing and exciting changes into my life as well…new people who are presenting wonderful new opportunities for me on professional and personal levels. And I am enjoying the ride that this change is taking me on!



  3. mary Byrd says

    I am so going to miss your fabulous take on our themes every month. Thankful that I will still get to read your fabulous word I do enjoy the way your write. Thank you for inviting me to be a part of this wonderful group it has been amazing. Sending love and well wishes beauty


  4. You’ll be sorely missed Sheela not least for your don’t-give-a-damn attitude. I love you for being badass, ballsy and the coolest cat I’ve ever come across. Good luck with your plans and I do hope that you’ll resurface to entertain, enchant and inspire us anew!

    Anna x


  5. I certainly will miss your inspiring take on our style themes each month, as well as what you regularly feature here on your blog. I will always be grateful to you for picking me out to be a part of this fabulous group of women. I look forward to seeing where the next chapter in your journey takes you. Meanwhile, this final post just makes me smile with your completely you take on color. 🙂


  6. Oh Sheela, Dear Queen She, you started us out back in March, 2015 for the Marsala color of the year. For two years we’ve kept this amazing collaboration up, and you have always been our leader. I do wonder where it will go and if it will continue without you. If it does, I’m going to include you anyway with some top Fab 40 moments of you.

    You are such an inspiration to me Sheela. As a writer, in style, with your mothering…basically you are one of my role models, and I will always look up to you no matter which direction your future takes you. I’ll be following along!

    Big love and big hug!



  7. sequinist says

    I can’t wait to see #whatsheeladidnext I love your blog and your take on everything, so I’ll keep myself tuned in to your frequency. xxx


  8. thestylesplash says

    I very much admire both your style of writing and your fashion style Sheela, so whatever the next step is for you, I hope you continue to blog. Thank you for linking up 🙂

    Emma xxx


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  10. Hi Sheila, good to see/hear you! I know when I lose that passion or desire for something, it can be an indicator I may need to step away from it for awhile. Just taking a bit of a break certainly helps me from time to time. I love everyones outfits, and those sunglasses are so fabulous, as is the look your sporting.
    Thanks for linking!
    jess xx


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  12. So true! Re-set buttons are definitely necessary. I love this black and white outfit! Either that color combo or grey is my go-to color.

    Miles of smiles,


  13. Good luck with all your changes Sheela. I look forward to seeing them 🙂 Absolutely loved this outfit especially those beautiful sunglasses.

    Gemma x


  14. Change can be scary but change can shape us to be better. I’m glad you are exercising the reset button bc it is for sure good for you. It is a great way to recharge and feel refresh! Sending positive vibes!


  15. No Fear of Fashion says

    I am very curious to learn what the changes are going to be. Good cliff hanger. I have a feeling another blog will be born. Or a completely new endeavour.
    But I have to say this first: as you know I have been quite unfaithful to your fine blog. Which you and your blog don’t deserve. Life gets in the way. Now that I have come back and see you, my jaw dropped. Man you lost some serious weight. I know you finally got the proper medication for what was wrong in your body. And does that show!! I still admire you for just going on when you were sizing up, never losing your style, always letting us enjoy it. I think most women would have preferred hiding in a dark corner. Kudos to you my dear. It proved that no matter what size, you look fabulous!! But most of all, it proved your incredibly strong character.


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