In Search Of A Friend

Who knew it’d be so elusive?

That thing called a friend, or friends.


I really do not have anything new to update since I began my adventures, I confess.  You know.  On Wednesday.  When I shared my comical “friendless” state and the slew of new (and unbidden) knowledge I’d recently acquired in the areas of today’s dating scene?

W A I T   N O,   T H A T'S   N O T   T R U E

I actually do have a few tales to tell.

Funny ones.

Story of my life.

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Faux Fur Jacket (UrbanOG) | Camo Pants (c/o F21) | Biker Booties (Bakers) | Bra & Oversized Sunnies (Poshmark) | Choker (c/o ManicPanic) | Lipstick (22 @ Kylie Cosmetics)

After my online adventures, I decided to go old school.  My first move was to smile at some of the ladies at the gym.  I think I must have scared the shit out of them because in all the five years we’ve seen each other, I’ve done nothing but walk the opposite direction when I saw any of them coming.  Or look at my feet if I had no other alternative but traverse the same path.

One of them smiled back though.  Albeit tentatively.

I even attempted conversation, yes I did.  I asked the lady who took the lift with me at the office building the other day how she was doing.  Props to her for being able to so quickly erase the startled look from her face and respond on a positive note.  Sadly, the doors opened then and it was her floor.  No, I don’t think she scuttled out of there as though her ass was on fire.

S   I   G  H

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I then attempted to make eye contact at my local Starbucks while I was in line for my beverage.  Perhaps it was the sight of a Matcha Frappuccino in my hands, instead of a coffee, but not a single female returned my wistful glances.  I did, however, make a few new male friends that I never intended to.

After that, I ventured to my local bookstore.

That tanked too.

Yeah, I really suck at this.

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Whilst I wallow in my friendless IRL state, I am completely blessed (and surrounded) by amazing online friends who make my life fun, fun-filled, and funny.  Friends like Annie and Shelbee and Ada and Debbie and Sofia.

And, of course, Jodie and her ladies, and Eve.

OH OH OH HAPPY BIRTHDAY, JODIE!!!  The world is a much better place with you in it.

Ok, for those not in the know, we began this Charlie’s Angels week with Natalie Cook on Monday followed by Dylan Sanders on Wednesday, and today, to culminate things, we are inspired by Angel Alex Munday.  She is the definition of kickass sexpot.  Clad in loads of black, loads of leather, loads of form-flattering shapes.  And a razor sharp wit.

Eve, Teens (the world according to eve)

Eve | The World According To Eve

Mah baby looks SO hot!!!

Sheela, 40s (sheela writes)

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I tried.

Jodie, 50s (jodie’s touch of style)

Jodie | Jodie's Touch Of Style

Super sharp, super sexy.

Nancy, 60s (jodie’s touch of style)

Nancy | Jodie's Touch Of Style

 Ingenious, that leather fringe.

Charlotte, 70s (jodie’s touch of style)

Charlotte | Jodie's Touch Of Style

Gutsy Dietrich vibe.

Pray tell.  Which has been your fave angel look???

Please do also join in the discussion and leave me a comment, because many most of my posts are inspired by what you say, how you feel, your thoughts.


Love, Sheela

p/s my photos are by Sofia Touassa

I link up here.


11 Replies to “In Search Of A Friend”

  1. I was sick last week and I read your post but was to misserable to comment. I am just like you! And I tried what you write about in this post! 😂😂😂😂 It doesn t work at all for me! HAhaha. I had a few friends but being seriously ill meant to my friends that I wasn t that interresting anymore…… Yeah, cried a river over that! I find it very hard to find new friends, I am very critical , don t like many people!😂😂😂 I always love your so very honest posts!


  2. Ahhhhhhh, but just think, these attempts are great story material!!
    And you are such a honest and incredible friend….it just takes time too. Kinda like dating—you usually don’t marry someone on the first date right?? Ha ha!
    And thanks so much for the birthday wishes!!! My hubby is making me scallops today!!
    PS—you are beyond hot to trot!!! Sexy as all get out and top of my list —for everything!!!


  3. First of all DAYUMMM!!! Holy hotness Batman! You look amazing my friend. Second, you and I are so much alike I can’t even. People in general aren’t my favorite & in particular large groups of them so I feel your pain. I have been fortunate in that I have found some true for real friends at work who are definitely keepers. Your online adventures cracked me up…the world is absolutely a bizarre place. Finally, I’m so glad you consider me a friend. I feel the exact same way. There was a connection from the first time we met. I so wish we could hang IRL…we’d be great friends and you’d love my little posse of ladies.
    Debbie xoxo


  4. Oh Sheela! This is my favorite of the three angel looks. Probably because Dylan is my favorite. And how sweet of you to include me in your list of online friends. As I consider you one of my best blogger friends as well! And my comment on your last post was written, obviously , before I read this post. So you did venture out and try to meet people in real life! Yay! That makes me very happy. Although, the results may not have been as desired, practice makes perfect, no? But perhaps not a bookstore or coffee shop…maybe an art gallery where I just made a fabulous new friend. Or your favorite boutique or store to shop in…a small one where the customer service is so individual that you can’t help but get to know each other. I have made some amazing friends just by frequenting my local Torrid store. And have also built a fabulous professional relationship with them as well where I help host events in their store and style shoppers. All this came from just walking through the door and striking up conversation about things I love! Thank you so much for sharing your friendship journey with us. It really is difficult, as you know, at this age to make new friends. Difficult but not impossible. Just keep being your fabulous self…your energy is very attractive and will draw others in!



  5. You look so hot in this look! I really need to get my camo pants out more often. Love the vibrant background behind you. I love that I have online friends and I find it really hard to make friends in REAL life. I think it just gets harder the older you get, too!



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