Author: Sheela Goh

The Fab 40s Go (Mostly) All White | Sheela Writes

The Fab 40s Go (Mostly) All White

 Clean, crisp, chic. What does white say to you?   Across (almost) all cultures and communities, the colour white represents purity, innocence, light.  For many of us, it also symbolises the dawn of a new day.  A fresh start.  Be it from our own sins or the looming, long shadows of those of our fathers.  In these current times of fragility and uncertainty, it would seem only natural for us to harken back to white, to what it stands for. S T R E N G T H Loyalty. Honesty. All things good. Aren’t you as tired as I am to watch the most horrid, torrid happenings on the telly?  Tired and frustrated and sad and angry?  I’ve been told (by a therapist) that my emotions are quite expected under such circumstances.  That I shouldn’t be too hung up over feeling so helpless and trapped.  Apparently, the sensation of being powerless is rather the norm. Still, one can’t help but strain against the cords that bind, and that, my friends, is the honest to God …

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Scentsuality & A Link-Up

It’s less about the scent, And more about the real story behind it.   As with any good read, it’s the journey, and not the destination, which makes us turn the pages, one by one by one, to the very end.  So too in the instance of fragrances, I feel.  In the grand scale of things, it isn’t so much the mastery in creating a harmonious accord that which intrigues me, as it is discovering (and walking down) the path leading to its inception.   Of course, at its heart, the simplest answer to why I love perfumes is that perfume, like most beautiful things, make me happy.  The more convoluted response, however, is such a complex topic that some have gone on to establish reputations and careers based on the seemingly basic subject of scents.  Yes, perfume is a labyrinthine subject, one requiring years of study. It isn’t just about the commercial beauty of a product or the innovative design of its host decanter.  There’s that all potent intermingling of chemistry with fashion, and …

How An Introvert Networks | Sheela Writes

How An Introvert Networks & A Link-Up

Not quite gregarious. Not really all that outgoing.   My name is Sheela and I am an introvert.  Before you brush off my confession, hear me out.  I find networking to be, at best, an exercise in trauma and torture.  More often than not, I’m the one in a roomful of strangers, standing around awkwardly, avoiding eye contact.  Like a trapped animal.  Or I cling to the one person I know.  All evening long.  Inevitably, I’d make a big show of checking my phone for “important” messages to avoid conversation.  And bond with my drink so no one comes over and talks to me. Does that sound like you?  Then you might just be an introvert, like me.  Which doesn’t bode all too well, honestly, since networking is billed as a top (if not the most important) skill to have in one’s professional arsenal.  So what’s a wallflower to do? The world generally prizes those who are social and outgoing.  Extroverts.  In such a culture, the quiet and contemplative, otherwise known as introverts, can have …

The Fab 40s Turn PM To AM | Sheela Writes

The Fab 40s Turn PM To AM

 Sequins for breakfast? Evening wear sees light of day?   Not too long ago, making a public appearance (during the day) wearing anything remotely bedazzled or sequinned would instantly have attracted upwardly inching eyebrows and scanning eyes. At the time, such an after-eight ensemble would do naught but telegraph the words, “walk of shame”, I’d wager.  Insert amused snort.  Not that we haven’t actually been there and done that (shhhh, we know who we are) but in this case, it’s merely an instance of attaining the highest levels of chicdom (ahem) by turning cocktail attire into daywear. Yes, there’s a certain sense of bravado in venturing into broad daylight in pieces that run the gamut from bugle-beaded chiffon to metallic brocades (work-from-home advocate judgments be damned). Both the ladies who lunch and launch are now doing so in plumes and paillettes, with nary a hint of shame, remorse, or awkwardness.  Tempered, even, with more than a touch of rebellion. AS IT SHOULD RIGHTLY BE Indeed, putting evening pieces into day mode is a somewhat mind-boggling adventure, …

Show Some Skin & A Link-Up | Sheela Writes

Show Some Skin & A Link-Up

Just a little? Or is it too much?   An age old argument of what’s slutty, what’s classy.  An equally perennial debate of what is sexy, what isn’t.  In what scenario does a hint of cleavage hold the same level of allure as an entirely exposed bosom?  When is something deemed sexy, anyway?  And what experience (or traits) do any of us hold, that qualify as to hold dual roles of sartorial judge and jury? Personally, as an ardent fan of style, I’m fascinated by pop culture, by how it impacts upon life and style.  I’m certainly no expert but here’s what I’ve come to realise.  It’s the media which sets the standards of what’s sexy.  An arbitrary standard that, sadly, has caused many females (young and old) to believe that if you are not “hot” according to conventional standards (read:  Victoria Secret’s ridiculous round-up), then you’re neither interesting nor desirable. What rubbish. From where I’m standing, being sexy has nothing to do with the size of your breasts or the gap between your thighs …

Black, White & A Touch Of Print | Sheela Writes

Black, White & A Touch Of Print

It’s black, it’s white. It’s a bit of this and a bit of that.   Today’s post is not going to be of my usual thought-provoking style.  Last Friday, Jody, Eve and I teamed up to present a showcase featuring only, yes you guessed it, black and white.  We then paraded that same palette with a heady infusion of our personal favourite colour on Monday. THE POWER OF BLACK AND WHITE And now, concluding the project, are our interpretations of black with white, and how powerful a game-changer print can be in that entire mix. I must confess that in the entire trilogy, the outfit you see above is what I’d pick as the one I like best. Why, you ask?  It’s merely a top and pants. With signature Sheela kickass booties. But there’s more.  Loads more to this ensemble. Both top and bottom are in Black and White, yes, but the colours are melded into prints.  That knit top is a classic houndstooth print with the cheekiest coloured tassels.  And those pants?  A graffiti …

Sheela Writes | Black, White & Blue, Baby

Black, White & Blue, Baby

There’s a science to colour. An entire theory based on colour.   As we’d all agree, design and art are two of the most subjective fields in the world.  What’s sauce for the goose is, very often, not necessarily sauce for the gander.  The same rule applies to colour.  Perhaps even more so.  What evokes one reaction in one person may trigger a completely disparate reaction in someone else.  Be it due to personal preferences, situational circumstance, or, even cultural.  Needless to say the science of colour is, well, a science in itself. AN ENTIRE THEORY OF COLOUR There’s also how colour affects us from a psychological perspective and, given the effort with which marketeers continuously try to outdo each other (all in the name of expanding bottomlines), it may very well be the most known of all principles pertaining to colour theory.  Indeed, studying how colours impact people, either singularly or collectively, is something certain individuals build their careers on.  Many in the industry (correctly) perceive colour as an integral component of branding/sales/marketing as …

Black, White & A Link-Up | Sheela Writes

Black, White & A Link-Up

There’s no gray. There’s only black or white.   How often do you find yourself caught in this sort of quandary?  A situation wherein there’s really no distinguishing line between what’s right, what’s wrong, and what’s the best most viable option given the circumstances.  Or are moral standards truly (and only) in the eye of the beholder?  Is there really a way to discern between right and wrong? I don’t know, I don’t know. THINGS ARE DIFFERENT NOW In our eagerness to be tolerant and our understandable anxiety to not judge, today’s society appears governed by a value system in which right and wrong are matters for debate.  I’m not saying that’s, well, wrong, but I am asking where do we draw the line between unarguably right and unarguably wrong?  Is the line even present?  And I dare say it’s something many of us find ourselves entrapped within on a daily basis, albeit in varying degrees of urgency. Is it better to be irresponsible and right, than to be responsible and wrong?  Was Churchill really …

When It's Taking Too Long | Sheela Writes

When It’s Taking Too Long

All in good time? Save the best for last?   What about, “All good things come to those who wait“?  Could we insert a scream right here?  Seriously, are you as sick and tired of hearing these as I am, well-meant as they may be?  Don’t misunderstand.  I love the good intentions behind each and every single phrase but truly, I sometimes often feel that nature (or God, depending on how you view things) is taking just a widdle bit too long. DO YOU FEEL THE SAME WAY? Leaving things to chance is something that’s insanely difficult for me.  Closer to impossible, I’d say, because while life usually does serve up what I’ve been hunting for, it’s typically later rather than earlier.  And I’ve always been an impatient woman. Of late, I’ve been asking myself why that is. Is there a method to all this madness? That I must endure a period of challenge in order to bring about change and growth?  Yes, I understand that we spend a huge portion of our lives waiting …

Stargazing & A Link-Up | Sheela Writes

Stargazing & A Link-Up

Twinkle twinkle, little star. Am I only to gaze upon you from afar?   Are you an ambitious person?  With dreams and goals that you work hard to attain?  I would think so.  And I believe I’m the same.  My question here is, should we be ambitious?  Hell, yes.  That being said, the unfortunate news is that more often than not, we stop ourselves before we get there.  At times, even before we actually start.  Whether or not we get in our way, or because we listen to the noise others put in our heads.  We start to believe we don’t have the right to aspire. AS IN, HOW DARE WE DARE TO DREAM!! Here’s the thing, people are going to try to stop you.  They’re going to say all sorts of things.  Such as it simply can’t be done; or you’re the wrong type of person to do it (whatever IT is).  That you’re a man, a woman, a black person, a white person, a red person, a yellow person, whatever.  Naysayers are going to …